How Boys Learn to Be Men

Boys learn to be men by knowing and owning the stories of real men. These stories can be divided into: (1) Stories from our own histories including our dads and brothers. (2) Scripture – – All stories of manhood only faintly echo the story of the LORD Jesus Christ: the only perfect man.

There are times when men and women need to be addressed separately so at The Red Brick Church we had a guys night for our youth group on Sunday night. I led and talked to our junior and senior high guys about how they will learn to be men. I stressed to them that we all need to know personal families stories that inspire us.

I was so encouraged to hear our young men share examples from their own lives of how their dads and grandpas have set the right example for them. I did not have to “pull” the stories out of them. They are proud.

• One young man shared how his father worked hard throughout his chemotherapy treatments even taking his computer to the hospital.
• Another talked about his grandpa working hard to become an engineer.
• We heard about a dad who went to the army so he could eventually be the first in his family to go to college.
• We talked about dads who have their own businesses and have to make phone calls without someone telling them to do it and get up early in the morning.
• We considered Jonathan who said (1 Samuel 14:6) – – “Perhaps, God will act on our behalf . . .”
• We talked about a grandpa who made his own rock quarry to put stone around his garden

I looked around the room and saw the faces of boys who have godly men they can look up to – – – what a blessing!

And we talked about our King – – who for the joy set before Him, endured the Cross – – scorning it shame – – and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Tell your boys stories about real men!