Steve Dewitt (and native of the GSOI) responds to a question about being single:
As a single pastor I often get questions related to singleness. I received some questions from a woman who went through a divorce many years ago and is struggling to be feminine and content when life demands her to assume more masculine roles. Here is part of my response:
I would like to share a few things. First of all, thanks for asking me! The fact that you are seeking dialogue tells me you are in a posture of learning and growing, which is right where God wants us.
Secondly, while I can relate in some ways to your questions about singleness, image bearing, and sexuality, there are challenges to single womanhood that certainly go beyond my experience. My heart resonates with your comments about being a woman, mom, employee, and other roles which demand a certain masculinity from you that you would rather not have to resource. This broken world holds many tensions and disparities, that is one of them.
I guess the main thing I would say is you face a decision of perspective in these matters. Will you define yourself according to how you perceive others to see you OR according to how God sees you. By some standards (perhaps your family or friends), your singleness is less than ideal (I know that feeling). You might feel that among Christians as well. You may feel that from yourself and life dreams/hopes that you had which have not materialized. All these things are very real but they are very temporary.
