Paul Tripp shares this Leo Tolstoy quote in What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage. It will be out soon . . . I highly recommend it.
Leo Tolstoy:
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.
After 37 years of marriage, some people ask me, “How did you do it?” My answer is always the same – “Low expectations”. 🙂
A great quote and an example that speaking with wisdom and acting wisely are two different things. See:
Phillip Yancey, What’s So Amazing About Grace, Zondervan, 1997, p. 85
and
http://www.nytimes.com/1994/07/24/books/more-war-than-peace.html?pagewanted=1