The Bible encourages those who have been offended:
- There are times when we go to the offender and share that we’ve been hurt (Matthew 18:15-17).
- There are times when let go of the matter (Proverbs 19:11).
So, how do we know when to confront and when to overlook?
Justin Taylor summarized a section of Unpacking Forgiveness that gives a list of questions to ask when considering whether or not to confront a matter.
I’m looking forward to reading Chris Brauns’s new book, Unpacking Forgiveness: Biblical Answers for Complex Questions and Deep Wounds.
Here’s one little section that caught me eye: How do I know when to confront something and when to overlook it?
The short answer is that it is a matter of wisdom or discernment. Each time you are offended, you need to wisely decide whether or not you need to bring it up. Only you can make the decision, but several diagnostic questions can help you work through it.
You can read Justin’s entire post here.